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The sensitivity games

Posted: March 23rd, 2012 | General Gayety | No Comments

Leslie Robinson | General Gayety The Olympic Games are a huge undertaking for any country that hosts them. So many things can go wrong, from terrorist attacks to ticket snafus. Organizers of this summer’s London games are determined not to fail in one particular area: sensitivity. The water polo players

The constructive-destructive axis of the LGBT community

Posted: March 23rd, 2012 | LGBT Values | No Comments

Linda Perine | LGBT Values Editor’s note: LGBT Values is a new column addressing many values of our expansive lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community, including political, social, economic and community values, among others. Linda Perine has a unique perspective and will discuss the LGBT community as a social and

The psychology of fashion

Posted: March 23rd, 2012 | Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy Harriet Gill, a friend of mine, died recently at the age of 94. At her memorial, her daughters gave a book of her essays to anyone who wanted one. Harriet was a commentator on KPBS for many years and often spoke about “authentic dress”

Equality voters could change North County

Posted: March 9th, 2012 | North County Update | No Comments

Max Disposti | North County Update

Here we go, another election year. It is like politicians never stop campaigning. They bombard us with promises of a better tomorrow when many of us have been left with the worst: unemployment, bank’s going after our homes and a public system that can’t afford to educate our children

Democratic Party needs marriage equality plank

Posted: March 9th, 2012 | Political Spectrum | No Comments

Allan Acevedo | Political Spectrum Last week at the San Diego Democrats for Equality meeting, an endorsement forum was held for the newly redrawn 53rd Congressional District. One thing became clear to me during the club’s debate on the endorsement: marriage equality is a singularly salient issue for me. I

The marriage whirlwind

Posted: March 9th, 2012 | General Gayety | No Comments

Leslie Robinson | General Gayety In the first two months of this year, same-sex marriage news has been as plentiful as wedding guests around an open bar. I need to pause. Catch my breath. Tot up the wins and losses of January and February. Analyze. Theorize. Chortle. Starting on the

Competition, cooperation and compromise

Posted: March 9th, 2012 | Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy Have you ever noticed how much competition there is in same sex couples? It’s just beneath the surface and something I see a lot in counseling gay and lesbian couples. It seems easier for opposite sex couples to not compete. Perhaps it’s because they

Happy, anxious, anxious, happy

Posted: February 24th, 2012 | General Gayety | No Comments

Leslie Robinson | General Gayety The LGBT news in my part of the world has been good lately. Stunningly good. The governor of Washington mastered her qualms, the legislature mustered the votes and soon misters will be marrying misters in the Pacific Northwest. This process has been so speedy and

What is normal?

Posted: February 24th, 2012 | Life Beyond Therapy | No Comments

Michael Kimmel | Life Beyond Therapy Recently, I was shocked to hear a new client tell me, “I don’t want to be gay. I want to be normal.” I have heard other clients say things like: “Gay men are such a mess, I just want a normal guy” and “Where

You are invited

Posted: February 10th, 2012 | General Gayety | No Comments

Leslie Robinson | General Gayety I’m thinking of starting a new career. With the state of Washington on a path to legalize same-sex marriage and Prop 8 declared unconstitutional in California, it’s the right time here to get into the wedding invitation business. For a modest fee, I plan to